Finally!!!!!! The Supreme Court has authorized same sex weddings!!! I am so happy to be able to serve this community in the name of LOVE!
Below are my Pioneers for the KC Minister of Love in Kansas. Everyone has to have a first and these two amazing couples were my firsts!!
When planning a same sex wedding, I do not find many differences in the process from any other couple. The ceremony is a legally binding public expression of your Love, Affection, and Commitment to one another. Any of my Sample Ceremonies can be used as a starting point for any wedding. I do have a few things you might want to consider.
Pronouncement. At the conclusion of the ceremony you can choose to be pronounced in a way that works for you. Suggestions include "Husbands for Life" or "Wives for Life" or simply "Husbands" or "Wives" or "A Married Couple". If you have another preference, please let me know!
Rings. Traditionally, married persons exchange rings and wear them on their Left Ring finger. Some same sex couples opt to wear their rings on their right hands. I say, whatever works for you. Universally, a ring on the left finger says "I'm married, loved, and cherished" without saying a word...but if in your circle of Life, it says the same thing more appropriately on your right hand, then that's where it needs to be!
Last Name. Just like any couple, the choice to keep your Last Name or use the name of your Spouse is a very personal decision and can differ from person to person based on professional reasons, children, family, or an entire alphabet of personal reasons.
Bride on the Left. Long ago, the right arm was considered the sword arm of most fighting men. If a man had to protect his bride, he would hold her with his left hand, and fight off attackers with his right arm. Therefore, a tradition was born in Wedding Ceremonies where in the Bride is on my right or the Groom's Left facing me. In a same sex marriage, there are no "rules" but if one of you considers themselves more the "Bride" than the "Groom" then you may opt to follow this tradition. Or not!
Thank you for taking the time to read my website and I hope to meet with you in person very soon! Congratulations on your engagement! If you are still considering popping the question, be sure to check out my page The Benefits which will hopefully seal the deal and get you off the fence!